The Gottman Method is based on decades of research into what makes relationships succeed or fail. It focuses on practical skills for managing conflict, building friendship and intimacy, and creating shared meaning as a couple.
The approach begins with a thorough assessment of the relationship — its strengths, its areas of conflict, and the patterns (the Gottmans' 'four horsemen': criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling) that predict trouble. Therapy then builds the 'Sound Relationship House': friendship and fondness, turning towards each other, managing perpetual and solvable problems, repair after conflict, and shared goals. It is structured, practical and skills-based.
Sessions are with both partners, after an initial assessment that usually includes individual conversations and questionnaires. Exercises are practised in the room and at home. Many couples therapists draw on both the Gottman Method and EFT, depending on what a couple needs.
Couples who want concrete tools and a clear structure, including couples whose relationship is fundamentally good and who want to strengthen it.
Further reading: The Gottman Institute.
Better Access rebates apply to individual treatment under a Mental Health Treatment Plan, not to couples sessions as such. Your practitioner will explain fees and any rebate that may apply to your situation.
The method includes 'discernment' work for couples unsure whether to stay together, and can support a respectful separation if that is the outcome.
Varies with what you bring; a focused course might be eight to twelve sessions after assessment.
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